What did the military legal aide tell you? 7 months married, means you would not have to pay much in the way of spousal support, if any.

It sounds like you want to try to do the right thing by her, and I applaud that. You however can not allow her threats of suicide to deter you from obtaining a divorce, since that is what it sounds like you want to do.

I won't even bother going into why you didn't use a condom. Yes, she was on birth control, but there are other reasons to use one, beside insuring a pregnancy doesn't happen. It certainly would have saved you a lot of hassle and grief. That however is water under the bridge.

If you are living on base, what steps do you need to take to get her out of the base housing? If you are living off of base, consider finding another place for yourself and inform her that the rent is paid up until "X" date.

If she wants to stay in California, she will need to get a job, it is very expensive here....I know, I live in Calfornia. If she decides she might as well go back home, buy her plane ticket for her and wish her well.

Just don't allow her to use the emotional blackmail of suicide. This may sound harsh, but trust me, if someone is really serious about taking their life, they will.

Next time around, don't expect the woman to be responsible for the birth control, the man is equally responsible and you also need to protect yourself from STD's and AIDS.

Good Luck.