"A little while later I bumped into an old ex boyfriend from where I live. He was such a sweetie and we have gone out on a few dates. He is very good with my kids and he pays a lot of attention to them. I'm so excited to see him again after all these years."

So you are still married, you moved away, are dating someone else, and he plays "daddy" when he's over?

Your husband may be a louse...but I can understand why he doesn't want to "finance" your lifestyle.