I really dont know. I am trying to learn the laws in general myself, but from what I pulled up so far is that basically anything given to the spouse/ex such as portions of pensions, retirement, property, and CS all start with either a final decree, anullment, or legal seperation.

The laws are confusing for me and my head is spinning from reading the military site I was just on, but I would think that you dont have to pay ANYTHING until at least there is a legal seperation signed and submitted. Even then, the orders can change in the final decree, but I cant find anything where you have to pay her anything with no orders of any kind in place.

I think its great that you are paying anyways to try and "stay ahead" just in case you ARE supposed to be paying right now, BUT...if your not obligated to, they may consider all the money you are giving her right now as "gifts" and will not be credited to you when the orders are final. (Unless, it is with check and "spousal support" noted on it....then again...I am guessing)

I know that non-compliance in the military is more harshly punishable than in the civil world, but if there are no orders?... I would think you are not breaking any rules from what I read.

Just my thinking....hope you get some definate advice.