Done4,
You will realize more as time goes on that you made the right decision. The legal office should be able to direct you to local attorneys that specialize in family law with an understanding of military benefits. I am not sure about the break in service but it sounds like you may be eligible for close to 50% of his retirement pay. Make sure that is addressed in the divorce paperwork. Until then you should be able to get child support from him as well as some type of spousal support (depends on the state). My divorce is not yet final (almost 2 years in the court system) but well worth it. You will find this out as you empower yourself with the understanding that you can live a better life without this guy. You have already been doing it most of the last 20+ years. It won't be easy at first, but nothing worth having is ever easy. It will be worth it. Also, your children with continue to get medical coverage and base privileges and depending on how the courts calculate your overlapping time married along with his time in service you may be eligible also. Stay strong, surround yourself with supportive friends and family and don't give in.