Strongmomof3,
I read this post yesterday but didn't get a chance to comment. First of all don't pay too much attention to anything he tells you. Next, find an attorney that specializes in family law and has a background working with military spouses. Your JAG office should have a list of local attorneys to chose from. I am a retired military and I can tell you right now he is going to have trouble trying to take care of the children and perform his duties as required. Fight for your children to stay with you. He is making the claims about base housing because he doesn't want to live in the barracks. Been there, done that. He should be given BAH because he has children. He will also have to provide to his commander proof that someone can take his children on a moments notice in the event of a deployment. Stay strong and look for an attorney. He will probably also have to pay spousal support for a certain amount of time until you can get on your feet. Don't back down and get an attorney.