I know by the nature of my post that it implies sexism in the courts...but from personal experience 30 years ago that was the case! For the past 3.5 years...I have been the primary caregiver of children 14 months, 5 years and 8 years. Before then...it was about equal.

I DO NOT want to keep the kids from their mother. That being said, I feel disenfranchised because I am the father...and I am a military spouse. I make much less than my Wife...but her career comes first so my career, my education...has always come first. Heck, she just applied to IPAP (Inter-Service Physician Assistant Program)...which will essentially take her away from the family for 2 years.

How will the court look at this? My children...like any other military spouse...are my life. I'm 1000 miles from our home of Record, and if she boots me out I'll have to struggle to follow her around the country...maybe overseas...with no more than some college and no real concrete job skill sets.

I love my Wife...but since her "Dear John" phone call...I just want my kids. I would do everything in my power to follow her...but feel like now that our "family plan" is coming together, she is looking to better start over.

BTW...our family plan was for her to get into a good school to become a medical officer...and then it would be my turn. Am I wrong for feeling this way?