Done4,
It sounds like you have a good attorney on your side and that the JAG is willing to give good advice. The numbers look good. I would not hesitate to ask for spousal support and medical coverage for yourself. Your daughter should still be covered by her father because he is still responsible for providing support. Keep an eye on it but she should stay in the DEERS system as his dependent and she should continue to recieve medical coverage through Tricare.
Stay strong and good luck.