Also from what you told me last night DFAS won't control her money anyway she legally seperated from him at the 7 yr mark, but divorced him by the 13 yr mark, so she would have to depend on him. What if the decree (and I dont have the decree with me)said she gets 50% I thought my sister said that's what it said will she still get it even though it does not fit into that formula you sent me? Man this is so damn complicated isn't it?