First, thank you so much for your service to our country! My son was born the week we "decided" to go to war so I think about the servicemen and women daily.

Check with your state about child custody arrangements first. When my husband and I separated (in GA) my lawyer told me I couldn't set up any ground rules for visitation, or the safety of my children, so long as we remained legally married. That basically meant he could take off to Canada with them and I couldn't do a thing. I also couldn't force child support unless I really wanted to fight and spend lots of money which wouldn't guarantee anything in a "separation". First and foremost, protect your son.