go to the jag right away, and get them to help you. Your getting the royal screw job, and need help, legal help. she is not intitled to the money for the rest of her life or remarries for one. That is alimony but what they are using is your rank against you, as soon as your divorced, it should end. And I would do that right away. Also, she might by the state law be entitled to part of your retirement if you do retire, but that is something you will need to work on with Jag. go as soon as possible, sounds to me she hit you with this stuff in a very weak moment in your life.