My stbx has an aunt and uncle that have been married like 45 years. He was in the Air Force. Lifer. He is now retired. They do everything together. I saw her right before my husband and i split. She told me that in their entire marriage that only one time she joined a choir on her own. He missed her so much that three weeks later he joined. They still belong to that choir. I just thought that was so beautiful. You can see that they love each other very much.