To: Is it over

I'm sorry you've had such a difficult time with your marriage. Not all military men are pigs (same as not all military women are sl*ts).

I've been married to my military man (US Marine) for over 11 years and we are doing great. I'm on this site because his ex is looney and I try to get support/opinions about the ongoing custody issues we face with my stepdaugters.

I think the key to success in any marriage is two-way communication. It's not always easy (deployments, field exercises, etc) but as long as we communicate about the things going on in our lives we are fine. He's my hero, my best friend and a great guy! He loves his kids and does everything he can to keep them (and me) safe and happy.

We have lots of friends who are dual-career military couples and they are thriving. Being military just adds an additional, sometimes more difficult, aspect to marriage but it certainly doesn't doom it to failure.

Best of luck to you. Thank you for your service to our fine country.