It's not counseling if they can't say what they need to. The counselor should make him leave the room and have the boys talk in private. Why pay for counseling that is serving no purpose? I would call the counselor about that. Also, if he is not taking the children as agreed upon originally, could you request an increase in child support since his parenting time is not what it is supposed to be? In my state, they take that into account (overnight stays) when determining child support. Sometimes that threat is enough to get the NCP to step up to their duties.

You usually can file a child support re-eval on your own without a lawyer.

I understand how you feel. I get no break either. NCP lives 10 hours away. Has seen DS 1 1/2 days in the past 14 months. And those hours were while I was at work, so it still wasn't even a break.