Yeah, but the other party is going to be hard-pressed to prove that DATING is adultery (proof of adultery is nearly impossible without a photo of the act OR an admission), and even if they prove it's adultery, how are they going to prove that a romantic relationship that started 8 months after separation in any way led to the breakup of the marriage.

As a fault-based reason to change the distribution of property, it sucks. It's possible, because the laws on teh books allow it, but in practice...??? nah. Don't worry.

If you've met a person you like, and it's been 8 months since separation, only the most puritanical of onlookers would be offended if you ask her out to coffee or a movie or EVEN a kiss goodnight after the date. Your ex will have cause to be angry, maybe... because ...

well, look at the thread on open marriage ... people may THINK they don't want you any more, but when you find someone new they get all offended. And THAT won't matter whether you're divorced already or not for that to happen.

Only real question is whether you are depending upon your stbx's goodwill for anything, becasue if your stbx finds out you've decided you are romantically interested in any other person, they you'll lose their good will.