Proud Father,

You seem like an extremely intelligent man! You are brave enough to seek out advice on a site such as this for the well being of your children - this shows just how much you love and care for your children!!! If only there were more people with such love for their children, the world would be much better off!

I am Tabitha White, Author, Child Support Federally Mandated. In my extensive research for the book I interviewed over 40,000 parents. I spoke with parents who felt the same as you do, If I give up my rights am I doing my child a favor? The answer is always NO! It takes two to create a child, and it is a blessing when children have two authoritative figures to 'grow' with in life. I do not know how old your children are now, but as a mother of two, and grandmother of one, let me reassure you, they will need your advice, opinion, love, support, constructive criticism, shoulder to cry on, hand to hold (if a female) to walk down the aisle, and babysitting offers when grandchildren come along all their lives!!! People that I interviewed who walked away regretted it each and every day!

People in today's society are concerned with the material aspects of life, and it tends to clouds our judgment. The best support you can provide for your children is love and emotional support. Take some of the well known people on the television who grew up poor, Oprah. Look at all the good she does for the children in South Africa.....and elsewhere......

Those children are going to grow up knowing that someone cared enough to see to it that they had a school to attend, to get an education. A popular saying in the Catholic Church is that, 'If you feed a man fish you feed him for one day, but if you teach him how to fish you feed him for life......

There was also a man who appeared on Oprah who quit his high paying job at Microsoft after a vacation to Nepal. He was so moved by the 75 children who all attended a mud floored one roomed school house, he quit his job and devoted his time, talent, efforts and energy toward running book drives for these children and others in that area. He went back with 3000 books for these deserving children! He has found his calling.

Don't give up on your children, they love you, they need you, today, tomorrow and always.

If you would like a free copy of my book I will be happy to send you one. I feel the chapter on the "You Element" will be most beneficial to you right now. Remember God put us all here for a reason, no one is an accident.

I would not be the mother, grandmother, wife, sister, aunt, daughter or author I am today had it not been for the constant encouragement of my parents. They divorced when I was 14, but the constant reiteration from them both that the four of us children could; "Be or do anything in life you want to do! All you have to do is set your mind to it and do it!" has gotten me to where I am today. I am pleased with the individual I have become. I strive to help others, and in return I know somewhere down the line they will help someone, the snowball effect!

Respectfully, Tabitha White, Author,
Child Support Federally Mandated
ChildSupportFederallyMandated@hotmail.com