Wow, a 4 year separation. Ouch! I can't imagine. I found our April 29, 2006 that my husband was having an affair and my divorce will be final any day! Whoo-hoo! How's that for speedy?

I am out in Yamhill county near McMinnville, so a fellow Oregonian here.

I hope all goes well for you and that you have the strength and clarity to get through this difficult time!