I agree with Taryn, divorce is stupid and messy. It is so hard financially. I've been a sahm for years too but everyone is all of a sudden expecting me to pay for this and that and I'm like hey! you can't squeeze blood out of a turnip. But the court system doesn't care. Whatever you accumulated during the marriage is both of your responsibility. Hopefully whatever incurred after the paperwork is filed is each to his own. That is what I've been told though. Hang on honey, it will probaly get worse before it gets better but it WILL get better.