[quote]Fortunately I have 15yr.old, 8 , toddler and a baby. As you'd assume older children fully aware of situation and understand more than I'd imagine. This hurts them. Besides he was trying all this time to be a great dad, but since he got married late in life - it is some lack of parenting skills, and he often lets his steam(built up over stressful businessman day) go on the kids, and sadly on the stepkids, older ones. This I can not tolerate, that's how we got where we are + a lot of other issues, sexual possitions has nothing to do in this case, I'd appreciate if this irony would be kept asside. [/quote]

I am sorry that you are going through this and that your stbx is being a greedy jerk.

I would gather copies of bank statements, w-2 forms, tax returns and start putting together a list of the household items that are valuable. Take a picture of them and catalog them, make sure that the date shows on the picture.

Your stbx sounds greedy enough to have hidden marital assets or to start trying to do that.