I don't think you'll be able to successfully convince anyone that the options have no value. You can do as answerguy suggests and divide it once it is vested or you can try an negotiate a settlement value now. Her take will be somewhere between $0 and ((current_market-strike)*shares-taxes)/2.

The $6000 401k contribution came in while you are still married and so is likely to be subject to division. You get $26,000 and she gets $14,000 is how I call it.