[quote]So we're talking about $25k in RSUs (at todays price) that will vest between 2009-12 and roughly 3000 stock options (varying grant prices, but all are underwater). Any chance I can propose that proceeds from either go to a trust or college fund for our 6 year old son? I'd be okay putting my 50% in. The thought of just giving this money to my ridiculously irresponsible STBX makes me sick. Realize that all of this isn't "fair" but would prefer to see our son benefit rather than either of us. Thanks. [/quote]

You can ask your stbx if she would do that with her share of the marital asset, but a court won't order her to. It is her share of the asset, not the child's. You can do whatever you want with your portion of the asset.