That's interesting. I have trouble seeing the forest for the trees so to speak. Would you please take the time to look at this pattern and tell me what you think?
Three years ago we filed jointly and I paid my portion of the taxes from an inheritance. He was informed by the tax preparer that with his consultation work he should pay estimated taxes. I did on my income. That year he did not pay estimated taxes and claimed five dependants even though it was just me. As a result he owed 12,000. He wanted me to pay half and that's when things broke down. He put it on a credit card, charged some more for house repair and had me pay on it out of our joint account. I handle our finances because he kept skipping payments and incurring finance charges. Even drove without car insurance. He then increased his withholding and stopped direct depositing, depositing a set amount monthly. Last year his return was about 9000. He had me apply the return to his credit card which I did. He still owes 2500. He pays 200/month on it in spite of the fact that his take home as a doctor is 10,000 a month.
I wanted to pay my taxes and he pay his taxes but he told me not to, that withholding from his income was easier. He told me not to pay estimated taxes anymore. I didn't, we filed a joint return and he took it all.
So what do you think since he told me not to pay taxes and we file jointly.
I just think there's something else going on and unfortunately I want things to be fair and honest.We haven't filed for divorce or separation because we just thought it wouldn't be worth it but we don't have an agreement either. I know he wants total control and from an emotional standpoint it makes me feel like it impunes my integrity. I tend to have a strong sense of fairness and in times of uncertainty like in this situation I look for some kind of family code to give me some direction. From what I've read, a joint refund is 50/50 and if one person takes more they have to be accountable for it in that it has to go to marital expenses. That indeed may be where he has me since he's applying it to marital finances. It seems he should apply his half to the monthly deposit.
Anyway, what's your take on this? I guess I feel like I've been tricked, but I don't know.
Sorry this was long.I'm almost embarrased about this but it is what it is.
Thanks for your input.