Cathie,

Listen, I know you are hurting terribly. You have a lot of time invested in your relationship with your husband, not to mention 4 young children, but he cannot continue to treat you so badly…tell yourself you and the children deserve better. As for him going back and forth between his druggie GF and yourself, he may end up giving you something much more than a dose of heartache. Do not have any more physical contact with him. Seek counseling from a trusted source, and get some legal help. You may be able to work things out eventually, but without you setting boundaries he’s going to keep doing what he’s been doing. You need to start protecting your self now!

Hang in there and be as strong as you can be for the kids.