Wut: I have been remarried for almost 6 years and I have a lot of the same issues with my husband..the difference is he has full custody of his son so we NEVER get a break from him...my kids go back and forth between me and their dad but I am the custodial parent...my husband does a lot of the same things to my kids...basically he ignores them and complains they are in my home "too much"...it has become a huge issue between us..he has told me many times "he can't take them any more"...so finally I told him if he can't take them in his life he can't have me in his life so he better figure things out...and the difference with us is his X bailed completely so he expected me to fill the "mother" role with his son...but he wanted me to do it by abandoning my own kids...basically making them go live full time with their dad so I could put all my energy towards being his son's mom...sorry ain't going to happen...I can be a mom to them all but no way in hell would I give up my kids for another man's kids...so I do feel for you...feel free to PM me...but this is about him and not about you and your kids...marrying you means "marrying" your kids in that when they are in that home it is their home too and they need to feel safe and loved and wanted...my kids do not feel wanted by my husband...and in a way by me because they see me choosing him over them by allowing the behavior...it all sucks...(: