"Just go to his website. You will get a real eye opener about just how deep his bitterness runs."

MY bitterness doesn't sway me into talking people into getting divorced. I wish for fairness and happiness.
EDIT added this paragraph:
Taken directly from my website:
"If you asked me, I'd tell you that the best interest of the children is for the parents to work out their differences and stay together. Failing that, the next best thing for the children is for each parent to get off of their ass and work, provide a proper home for THEMSELVES as well as their children, and try to find a living arrangement where each parent can spend maximum time with their children (even if it means receiving less support money). The children should be able to spend maximum time with each parent and each parent should be able to spend maximum time with their children."

YOUR bitterness apparently sways you into talking people into divorce. You seem to be quick to call behaviors abusive and expect extreme consequences because of it.

"There is a huge difference between discipline and abuse."

The line between the two seems very faded in your eyes.

What this stepfather is doing isn't discipline. It's abuse."

So now you're an expert on this families situation? How can you be SURE? You've heard one side of the story only and very little of it at that.

Let's even assume that her husband became too aggravated/excited a few times and crossed the line between discipline and 'abuse'. Does a few incidents make him a cut-and-dry no-questions-asked 100% ABUSER?

We've had this conversation before. Not everything is black and white.

And even if he was, is there no hope of reform?

By the way, I encourage you to go to my website. The more people open their eyes to the 'abuse' that the CS system dishes out, the better.