Thanks so much! I have been reading more and more about other SM's and how to deal with ex's.

My fiance still gets really grumpy at me when I talk to him about being more assertive. He tells me that it's not worth the repercussions from her if he is. I have still been trying to drill it into him that assertive does not mean a**hole! He could be firm and stand his ground without being a jerk, but he just doesn't see it that way.

*sigh again*

Has anyone out there been successful at this, or is it something that just comes with time??