hurly7- Unfortuantely there isn't much you can do legally about this, unless there is abuse going on or she is making him do things that violate the divorce decree. On the bright side, however, you have them 300+ days out of the year, so you have a lot of time to do some "damage control" and correct anything negative that the kids may pick up from all of this. With that much time, you will defiantely be the more influential parent in the long run...

juliacinaz- dump him yesterday, and explain to him why you are doing that. Being in a stepfamily situation is difficult and challangeing enough even if everybody bonds well and everybody treats one another appropriately. A situation like you are describing will almost certainly doom that relationship to divorce, which is something I'm sure you don't want to go through again. There are plenty of fish in the sea, put being good to your daughter as the #1 factor you'll require in a BF/potential husband...