it really isn't a matter of extra parenting time for her as she would normally be at work. when i wrote the parenting plan i was specific that the hours from 8AM to 5PM were daycare hours and are available to either parent if possible. Since I travel, I usually don't go into the office on days that I return so I typically pick the children up a couple hours earlier than my scheduled time. All I am asking is that the wife pick them up so they can greet me at the airport. i think it would be a good thing for the kids to experience this again as they have done this during the marriage. note that my ex has offered to bring them to the airport at one point.

i am usually flexible with other matters. for example, i was going to pick the children up early one day but the mother wanted to see the children first so i said i will pick them up later.

the cost of the daycare is not affected by picking the children up early. i pay to the ex half of what it would cost to have the children in a licensed day care even though her mother is wathching the children. with the execption of some weeks where the children are with either me or the ex for vacation or holiday.

personally i think it's a control issue. she's pissed that she has to share the kids with me let alone with another woman. i'm trying to be understanding but it isn't easy when i know the issues have absolutely nothing to do with chldren unless you account for the fact they are missing out something fun with daddy.