OK, there wasn't enough time or room obviously to go into the whole story...but since you touched on this particular subject...
He has only asked three times to see the baby...
1. Asked for a broad time, "Next week." Never heard from him, didn't worry too much.
2. It got a little more specific, "Next Tuesday evening." Again, never heard from him. Then the following week he starts accusing me of not letting him see her...my response, "you never called!" His response, "Why didn't you call me?" Why should I have to call to remind him of the day he had wanted to see her? (but he doesn't see this, still tell everyone, including mutual firends at my company that I won't let him see her)
3. Got specific, "Next Tuesday at 5:00." At 5, 6, 7, and 8 I called, texted, left VM, and then emailed later that night. Plus called for the next week...he dissapeared!!! I made sure that I called (even though I think it's ridiculous!) so that he couldn't even TRY to say I wouldn't let him see her. And what do you know...he still says it! Even to me when I finally reach him! How did this even make sense to him? The part that I can't take is knowing that I wake up every day and go bust my rear at work for my daughter. I don't get a whole ton of time with her. And then to think that soon I will be forced to give her up every other weekend, holidays, etc? When he hasn't even attempted to see her in 4 months. Makes me sick to my stomach. Anyone know what the visitation is for anyone under 1 year?
And his lack of judgement is what bothers me for her to be with him...he has left her alone (asleep) with his 8 year old at the house. Granted it was only 10 minutes and he was in the neighborhood (far enough to have to drive though) he said, but where does it go from there?!? When we were still together, I walked in from work and saw his 8 year old holding my 2 month old on top of her head in a recliner when he was supposed to be watching her...of course he was in another room watching football.

So basically, I work to provide for my child...he doesn't do anything so he can possibly make his case for spousal support. Trust me...the constant diaper rash she had when he kept her for a day is the least of my worries.