Celeena,

The pain you feel is real it comes from the knowledge that the love and commitment that you have put into the marriage is one sided.

It does get better although it isn't over night. The things that helped me were keeping myself very busy and reaching out to help others. This had helped me to not be so focused on my pain, there is always someone that has it worse than I do. It may be to soon for you to reach out in this way, but keep it in mind when you are ready.

I agree that you should not sign away your part in the assets. I think that you may have to work at remembering that you and he aren't on the same team. (At one point I had to write down all the things my X did to remember why I left, and he was abusive - i just wanted to remember the good times) If that means he is going to get mad about the property separation then he is just going to have to be mad.

I am sorry about the pain that you are in and wish you the best.

Annie