pfffttt!
i WISH! with all that is in me!
OH AND i wish the consequences would increase
with the number of women
(during the last year of marriage would be good enough for me)
with how often they bring the 'new person' around the kids.
and
they should get Really legally slaughtered if they live with the SO during the interum of filing and finalization.
(sound good, ssracheal? wonder if we could implement such action asap...yeah riiiiggghhhtttt)

but, alas.

legally.

no
one
cares.

not while your married,
not while your separated,
not
ever.

i am sorry your going through this.
it Stinks!

post lots and read lots here.
it will help you.

many of us have 'been there done that'
and know how you feel.