wont bore you with too many details except to say that we had a talk and she agreed no hostilities, no one hurting anyone and she said she would get an atty. But i said of course to look things over but we should save money and talk stuff out first.

but she told me i had to say the D word to her and for some reason i couldnt. I know, you prob wanna kick my ass and so do i. I guess the word ATTY scared me lol. And i do feel bad and guilty about the whole thing. But i'll look over my finances again today to try to convince myself i can live without her. I know i know...no price is worth staying, but i really want the house and dont want to be paying huge perm. alimony and subservient to her anyway.

EDIT...i just checked our accounts and THE &*()(*&*( WOMAN took most of the 'settlement 'money out of the joint account...so this is over..she finalized the decision for me for sure