I guess in all this i have to remember i had a year to think about and process it and she was 1 year in denial that i threatened to leave. So she is going thru it all now.

But as i went thru drawers full of papers to sort things out(geez what crap i save lol) , she asked if i was trying to hurry her out. I said well i'm trying to help you and plus all this has to be gone thru anyway and doing it for the entire house will take a long time. Yea i should have said yes i'm hurrying you but i didnt.

She said she wasnt even seeing what i was tossing out and i assured her it was just old papers that needed shredded years ago. I do have a pile of her stuff sitting there on the floor for her to go thru and as she saw some old anniversary cards she started crying. But i didnt toss any of her stuff out. But i bet when she starts going thru it she wishes i did because of the memories. Then she said about going thru pics. Fact is we have a scanner and if she really wants them i'll just scan the ones in i want. I'm only gonna fight about whatis really important to me..house/pension/alimony.