I'm so aggravated right now I could scream! My stupid lawyer! grrr I met him and paid the consultation fee even though I don't work and have very little money. I explained this to him and he knew this. He said he would work with me and that he would probaly end up making the ex pay him. It has been about three weeks now and since I got the tax money that is supposed to pay off a vehicle, now he wants some money plus filing fees, he hasn't even filed anything yet!!!!!!!!! His secretary is always the one to talk to me, he doesn't. She told me that is what he needs up front. So, I told her on the phone that I am unemployed and he knew that and that I would be able to give him most of it but not all right now because I still need to pay a big amount toward the pay off. This thing sucks, my stbx left me and the kids, pays what he wants to us and sees the kids when he wants to. He wants the damn divorce but I'm doing all the work and now I'm going to be paying out the money that I don't have. I know lawyers do not work for free, but good lord! If he got a lawyer, then I would end up contesting anyway because he wants out of a six year marriage with two kids without having to pay more than what he absolutely has to by law and walking away with my car that is in my name. I don't get it, why does it seem like I'm getting the shaft when I didn't even want the stupid divorce to start with. Is it because ppl like ex and lawyer think I'm lazy and don't want to work??? I've been a sahm, that to me is hard work and I do it everyday because I love it and that is what I'm good at! Thanks for letting me vent. I'm so mad and aggravated at the whole mess.