Been here, done this.

Mine kept leaving and coming back because I allowed it. You might think your being compassionate or unfailing....trying to bend over backwards to make this work. Your intentions are right, but its hurting no one but you.

Yes, he may not come back if you put your foot down, but why be with someone who doesnt want to be with you anyways. That doesnt make you unwantable either. Believe me, it just makes him undeserving.

Put your foot down and follow through. You WILL go crazy in this limbo you are allowing. Thats a fact. There is nothing at all wrong with thinking of yourself in some instances, and this is one of those times to start thinking of you.

Figure out what you want and if he can give that to you. If he is not willing to do some of the bending over backwards to make it work....move on.

Be strong, hang in there....its rough but you will come through this a whole heck of a lot better off.