WWIL, I am afraid there are a few people who may not remember that you are still living with your wife who is depressed, disabled, and desparately trying to save the marriage for this past few months, doing such things as moving her smoking out to another room when you're home, which appears to be a big deal to her, and poking at you with needles when your'e giving her the silent treatment in some misguided attempt to kid around with you.

She had her mother show up unannounced to you, for a week of hell as the mother berated you for not taking good enough care of her daughter, while refusing to become the woman's caretaker, herself. AND your therapist has speculated that maybe getting the divorce papers (which are ready to be delivered at any minute) might send your wife off the deep end into a suicide attempt.

AND this is not like you're trying to send her off the deep end. For all your wacky questions about whether or not you should be mean to her to make it easier for her to hate you, or whether you should kick her to the curb to fend for herself, you've been doing everything in your power to give her time to figure out what to do next, get used to the fact that you're wanting her out, etc.

Under those conditions, I doubt that going on a date with a different person would have been the recommendation? I hope?