Thank you for replying. I don't know if he is dating someone, but I'm pretty sure he is. I have a 6 year old and a 3 year old, both boys. Well, when he doesn't come to visit them or to pick them up, they are happy, they really don't care if he comes or not. Most of the time they don't want to go with him. They only way that they will go is if I'm not present at the time that he comes, otherwise if I'm home and he picks them up then they won't go, they start crying because they don't want to go with him. One day my oldest one was crying because he came and he wanted to take him, so I told him that the same way that he was saying that no one was going to force him to take the kids, I wasn't gonna force my kids to go with him. So, I told him, if my kids don't want to go with you they are not gonna go, he got mad and he left, but sometimes I don't know how to make him understand that the kids need him. We agreed on the child support because I didn't want to go through the court and all that paperwork, but what hurts me is that he doesn't want to pick up the kids. I am the type of person that I don't go out or anything, to me if he doesn't pick up the kids then we go out to the movies,or wherever they want to do and they love it, but it is really sad that a father thinks that way. Don't you think?