It seems like you already have, Mari. You seem to be comfortable with your life and comfortable in your own skin. If that's not "equilibrium" I don't know what is.

I've only been separated from my wife for three months and divorced for two weeks and I'm so bored and lonely I feel as though I am going to lose my mind. I miss the woman I MARRIED, not the woman I DIVORCED. I feel, at times, as though the loneliness is going to consume me.

I don't LIKE being divorced. I don't like it at all. But jump right into another relationship to try to fill in the void?

No way in hell.