In many ways, my second husband was the opposite of my first. The first was a goody-two-shoes, the second was the bad boy.

The one I'm with now is in the middle of the spectrum and is the show of moderation instead of the two extremes. It's almost as if I have the best qualities of both of my two STBX's, and very few of the worst.

It is a bit surreal to enjoy new positive traits in a partner as they enjoy yours. At the same time, keep the hat of reality within reach. None of us are perfect.