mbrown -
I do know what you mean about jealousy. I think it is also about stability when life is just becoming predictable again.

I do have to agree with Gigi's earlier post. I think it is good to stick around as the friend (she is a REALLY cool person, and I DO value her friendship). As time goes by, she may work out what she needs to. No matter what -- I am there for her as her guy - pal. In the end a true friend is more important.