I've run into quite a conundrum lately.

I don't have the opportunity to meet ladies in person all that much. I work at home and I don't go to bars/clubs. So, I've been rather forced to meet women online (Match/Myspace/etc). Meeting online has not been a problem for me. In fact, it's overwhelmed with the amount of people messaging me. It's actually been annoying as I've been getting people's stories confused.

I'll be the first to admit that I'm rather shallow. I am initially drawn to women that take care of themselves and are very attractive. After meeting them, I then learn if they have additional qualities that I desire (personality, chemistry).

Now, in the online dating realm, it's the complete opposite. I typically get to see a handful of outdated photos that show the person in an upper body or head shot. While they may have a pretty face, the rest of the package is an absolute crap shoot. But, I get to know their personality as I tend to talk a bit with them via email and eventually over the phone before finally meeting them. They are great until I meet them.

I think this situation works best for people who like working in that order (personality, physical attraction, chemistry). I'm not like that.

I wish I could enjoy the company of people that aren't physically attractive to me.... but I just can't do it.