Malone when I met my stbx I actually made more than he did as he was a Master Corp in the military and I was an RN. Within a year however he was promoted to Sgt and his income overtook mine. Then after he was hurt after fighting together for his justified pensions he earned 3x as much as I did. As his PTSD and head injury became worse over time he began to become suspicious started hiding things from me until eventually he demanded we have separate accounts and he took control of the majority of the household money. The result was huge debt that I had no control over and was expected to pay with minimal income.

I don't think the amount a new realtionship might make will be a factor but his willingness to be open and completely willing to make things work together will be really important to me. It sounds great on paper but I am not sure how easy it will be for me to believe it can actually happen though after the mess my stbx is still making of my life.

Christine