I wish I was able to offer some concrete help to you at this time. However, all I can offer you at this time, is to tell you, my divorce was just final on October 30 in Kendall County and mine lasted over 3 years. I ended up firing my attorney and signing an agreement on my own because he was completely wasting my money and not getting anything done. You can do this! Just remember to keep your kids your first priority and don't let your emotions take over your rational thinking. I did that for the better part of my divorce and my two young kids felt it from both of us. I would be willing to chat with you anytime and give you any advice I have or support you may need. I am originally from the Naperville are. So, I do know a little bit about DuPage county too. I wish you well during this hard time. Please don't give up or get too discouraged. As long as we keep our kids best interests, (really) first, we can get through this. Oh, but one more thing, also, don't forget, you and your ex need to make the decisions, not the attorneys.