I understand the feeling of loss...but my wife cheated on me. I'm sorry your hurting...we were only married for 5 years but she and my children were my world, now she is using my little darling daughters to try hurt me..it's working, but it's working because I see my kids hurting and in turn it hurts me. She left me for a guy that has money, we lost everything and so I understood why he seemed like a good option,but he beats her and she has turned to me twice now to help. He and she are drinking 24-7 and I've been told by a friend of theirs they are doing speed and cocaine, oh yer he has a gambling problem and there is not much money more debt and he has threatened to kill me,the kids and my father...look at my post and you will see what else I'm dealing with.if you need to talk let me know