I am not actually divorced. How do I know if this is the right choice for me and my family? My husband is going to throw the fact that "I am destroying our family." My children will be scared according to him. I have to wonder if they will be more scared because we are together. He is not a bad person but we are two TOTALLY different people and I don't agree with a lot of things he does. He cusses at my children. He doesn't help raising them. He doesn't help around the house. He doesn't even keep my youngest child on his days off because "he needs a day to rest." I work. I work very hard and I have my children (my choice completely) all the time I can. He does things that I don't want my children to learn or even know about. He has even fussed because I take my children to church. I don't know whether I am just totally square and I need to get over my selfish self or do I have real reasons to reevaluate our marriage. Please help? I would love to hear anyones ideas and theories on this.