Thanks for your response. I am divorced for 3 1/2 years and he for 2. Neither of us has tried to integrate anyone else into our lives like this. We both dated others before we met but they weren't necessarily introduced to the kids. We are very serious about each other and want to live together, at least, one day. So we are very keen to integrate our kids more into our relationship. Just have no experience with how, etc. So we're stumbling. I know it will work itself out and we both agree that our relationship has to have priority just as the kids needs do. I don't expect them to "like" me necessarily, just respect that I'm in their fathers life to stay. Their mother is very bitter and so has made it difficult for anyone to enter their fathers life. Patience is the key to all of this I suppose. I just thought that if there was some words of wisdom or pitfalls to avoid, etc., I'd like to know from someone's experience :) Thanks again...