I just found this forum. I have been holding things in for so long now I just want to talk and get some advice.

My husband of 11 years tells me that we are nothing more than "roommates" at this point and he doesn't see things changing. He hasn't left me because he feels like he "owes" me. I put him through most of undergrad and all of grad school and now his income is 3x my income. He says he's been unhappy for as long as he can remember.

I know that I can be difficult to live with too but I'm asking myself why I keep crying and why I keep putting up with so much nonsense. My husband is irresponsible with money, self-centered, demanding, inpatient with me and basically doesn't feel that I can do anything right. We went through some tough times about 3 years ago - He partied a lot and came home with a hickey one night. He swears "nothing happened"... He straightened up after that and did make an honest attempt to make the relationship work but we have continued to have issues. I can't believe I stood by this man only for him to decide he's tired of me. No matter how hard things got, I stuck it out and loved him in spite of everything.

I've been sad and waiting for him to have a change of heart. I'm embarrased to admit that. I know that he feels guilty. He's not entirely a bad person but you get to a point where you've had enough and you start to see a person in a different light. I'm trying to work up the nerve to go to an attorney, get my act together and move on. I'm usually a fairly well put together person but lately I'm a wreck.

Advice?