Well this is the first site that I have come across and seams as if it has the best information I am looking for. So here's the issue that I'm having...I just don't know where to go with my wife. We have been together for 6 years lived 3 years before we got married and have been married for 2 years. Life was fine until we put the rings on our fingers. We seam to fight all the time, over issues that are sometimes serious and sometimes not. We will go weeks with out fighting then have one big blow out. Its easy for the curse words to start flying especially on her part. We have had some trust issues in the past me I was chatting and texting people but stopped and did not go back as for her there was a person in her office (that is no longer there) that she had a lot of contact with on the phone and text messaging. Also decided to go to this persons going away event knowing how much I did not want her to. After that last event that she went to since then I have just lost all feeling with our marriage.

The big thing is she thinks that we are fine. Says I love you when I feel like I have to force it out, wants to cuddle and I don't, and as for intimacy im really not interested in that with her now cause all she is concerned about is her weight which really is not an issue to me but she makes it one and it makes me not want her.

I just don't know what to do I have never been so lost in my life...I want us to last but I think that there's no way we can. What should I do? I have created a list of items that concern me and that I have with us for me to read to her but I'm afraid to cause I know how much it will hurt her. We are in our late 20's and still have a good life ahead of us. We have no kids but she wants them I do want kids but not if we are in a unhealthy marriage. Last thing I want to add to this is add more stress and difficulty to our marriage. All we have really is a house and the items in it...im afraid that by getting a divorce it will effect our credit and financial situation cause we really do have a lot of out going bills. Any advise will be greatly appreciated.