I agree with the last two post. NO CONTACT!!! I have been doing that with my STBX and she has been coming around. She has been calling every three to four days. She has a new boyfriend and a new apartment now, so divorce seems only likely. However, she will not break the bond. It was her that wanted to leave, it was her that wanted the new guy and it was her that wanted to be happy. She may or may not be happy now, but she sure does want to know what I am doing.. Weird how that works. Stop calling, texting, emailing, and talking about the relationship. This will change your behavior and with that change your STBX will change as well. The only one you can change is YOU. You can not change her. That is the mission statement that I have been living by.