Now, how about a womans point of view. I too left my husband 1 year and 2 months ago. We were always fighting, mostly about money. I finally couldn't take it anymore and left. Prior to leaving, we were even sleeping in seperate rooms. I told him I needed to leave in order to save our marriage. He didn't understand. He never expressed his feelings nor did he want to do counseling. My heart has been broken ever since. I still love him and he doesn't want me and I'm the one that left. With in months of leaving the fighting got worse. We both said and did bad things to each other. We hated each other. Then I thought I was doing the right thing by getting on with my life. Now a year later I find that I still love him and want to come back home. He never talks about anything personal, so I am writing a letter to him expressing my feelings in hopes that he responds. This will be my last attempt to save our marriage. I am sorry to tell you, but it will be awhile before she is ready to discuss things with you. If she wants the space, please give it to her but dont give up. If you truely love her, you wont. But from a womans view, she needs the space and time to figure out who she is inside and what she really wants. If you give her that, you have a better chance at getting her back completely and most likely a better relationship. But everyone is right, it will get worse before it gets better. I wish my husband wanted us to be together as much as you do with your wife. Good luck to you.