Ok I promise to be a kinder and gentler numbs today. SKip; Are you looking to try and save your marriage, to try and find solace for getting a divorce, or just looking for a place to vent? I ask this in all sincerity and there is no wrong answer I just need to know what kind of support you are wanting.

I understand completely the frustration you are feeling with a husband that does not help, my ex wasn't a bad person but she lacked the ability to help with the daily running of a household. Her concept of a balanced checkbook was, if she had checks she must have money. The major failing of our marriage was my inability to communicate my frustrations with our marriage in an effective non-belittling way. I failed in being able to be to talk to her in ways that didnt immediately put her on the defensive, thus resulting in her seeking approval from the another man. I point out my own failings as a way to maybe get you to look at what you are doing wrong. Most attorneys, and I know a metric ton of em, are arrogant and a little bullying. This is not a bad thing it just comes with the job. Have you tried approaching the problems with your marriage from the perspective of what you need to fix with you? Have you tried talking to him in a manner that isnt accusing? Even if you end up getting a divorce your relationship with your husband wont go away you will be forever tied because of the kids and it would go a long way to making things easier on them if you didnt hate him when all of this was done. Again this is not saying you are at fault here, it is just pointing out I have never seen, heard, or read about a couple that got divorced and only one side was completely at fault.

Please remember one thing, you may hate him now but at some time you were in love with him enough to say "I do" and that person is still in there. It may be to little to late but you do owe it to your kids to see if there is anything you can do find that spark again. Divorce is a brutal ugly beast invented by satan himself, it will make people who once loved each other say the vialist things imaginable about the other one, it puts children in a position of having to chose one parent over another parent, in most cases it leads to financial ruin of both parties involved. Even if the divorce is the most amilicable of situations the children will still be negatively affected just not to the same degree if it is an ugly divorce.